But I do believe there are plenty of work situations which may lead you to overeating - some of them social (birthday cakes, lunch with the girls, drinks after work etc) and some of them in the line of duty (travel, entertaining etc)

If you're trying to lose weight, don't blame your job for getting in the way - work out some strategies to cope with the situations you find yourself in instead. You will know what these situations are likely to be more than anyone.

Maybe you receive presents of chocolates if you're a nurse or a teacher. You know they will come. What will you do with them? Think about it before they arrive!

If you entertain clients, work out your strategy for that too. If possible choose the restaurant were you know they have a good selection of healthy dishes you like. In any case, you are always in control of what you order and what you eat or drink from what actually arrives in front of you.

If you travel, you will have a good idea of what you can eat from the usual airport, plane or roadside cafe. If all else fails take your own. Don't use travel as an excuse to eat too much.

And as for the birthday cakes and lunches - join in if you like but go easy on the portions...

It easy to find things in your life to blame for being overweight, but that doesn't get you any nearer the size you want to be.

Remember whatever situation you find yourself in at home, at work or at play, you are always in control of what you put in your mouth. Make sure that you exercise that control!

How so?

Well, if you need to reduce your spending you can do so in all the following ways and help yourself drop some pounds too

1. Stop buying junk food - you don't need any of that stuff and what you don't buy you can't eat
2. Stop buying soft drinks and drink more water
3. Reduce your alcohol intake
4. Eat less meat and bulk out your meals with veggies 
5. Eat smaller portions all round
6. Stop over-buying food (and throwing it away at the end of the week). Plan healthy meals and snacks and only buy what is on your list.
7. Stop over-cooking food or cook double and make sure that half the food is put away before you serve the meal so that you can't be tempted to overeat on the first night.
8. Eat healthy home-cooked meals instead of eating out. Give up fast food and take-aways
9. Meet friends for a walk, a swim or a game of tennis etc instead of for a meal (or just go out for coffee)
10. Walk all short journeys instead of taking your car

If you have more tips to add, please leave a comment

Actually taking action!

It's alright imagining yourself slimmer, plotting what you'll wear (or eat?) once you're slim but unless you actually get your finger out and change what you eat NOW and/or increase your activity levels you are not going to achieve your goal.

• You can buy a diet book and not lose weight. You have to follow that plan.
• You can take a diet pill and not lose weight. You inevitably have to follow the diet plan they give you and don't mention.
• You can join a gym and not lose weight. You actually have to go and do the exercises  - regularly not just once or twice.

I quite often hear from clients "I have tried everything to lose weight" and it will be true. They have TRIED everything (or so it seems) but what is also always true is that they have never stuck with anything.

Losing weight is not going to happen on a wish no matter how much you want it. It happens when you take action day after day after day.

You might have the odd "off day" even the odd "off week" but you have to get right back on board and get on with your weight loss program straight away.

And the great thing is - it's entirely under your own control whether you lose weight or not. You just have to decide whether you want to lose weight (a wish) or whether you are actually going to stick to a plan and lose it.

And in contrast my friends who are slim just get on with their lives - they may plan what's for dinner but they don't often think about food until they are hungry (or until someone puts a chocolate cake before them - well, they are human too!) and when they've eaten they don't think about it again (unless it was a spectacularly delicious meal!)

In some cases, the slim friends have busier lives than the more overweight ones - but it's not always true.

So what is going on here?

It seems to me that the slim friends have a "set it and forget it" approach to food. They may have a vague idea what they'll have for lunch or dinner or a firm plan in place and when they get hungry - they eat!

The others eat more because thoughts about food comes into their head all day. It's a bad habit they have got into. When they think about food, they feel hungry even though they are not physically in need of food - and more often than not they give into temptation because they don't stop thinking about food until they do.

I have found three ways to deal with this obsession:-

The first involves getting 100% occupied and interested in what you are doing so that you get in a flow state where you don't even think about food. This is the ideal but it's difficult for most people to achieve when they have got into the habit of thinking about food too much. And to be fair, most of our lives are not filled with activities that are so very interesting!

The second involves not giving into food thoughts unless we are truly physically hungry (tummy rumbles required) and giving ourselves a task to do before we even consider  whether we are hungry again. It means not eating now "in case we can't get time to eat later". It means not fearing being a little hungry - it won't do you any harm to wait.

With the third solution, you eat whenever you like but you change what you eat. Give yourself permission to nibble all day if need be but keep very low calorie foods (such as raw vegetable sticks) on hand and all higher calorie foods under lock and key until meal times.

If you need to lose weight, try to use a combination of all three tactics so that you get out of the habit of

a) thinking about food all day
b) giving into food thoughts when are not hungry
c) eating lower calorie foods when you do give in!